Pre-Marriage

Six Diastrous Decisions that Singles Make

(And What You Can Do to Avoid Making Them)

(Acknowledgements: The original article that gave rise to this presentation was by Tracy McMillan on-line at Huffpost Style).

Disastrous Decision #1 — You Decide To Be Angry

  1. Characteristics
    1. You have unresolved hurt and resentment from relationships in your past.
    2. You use anger and hostility to protect your heart from being hurt again.
    3. You use sarcasm and cynicism as a cover.
    4. You deny you have an anger problem.”Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.” Genesis 4:6-7

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Is This Mr. or Ms. Right?

Five Questions to Honestly Ask Yourselves

A. Values Harmony – Do we have real agreement on our essential guiding beliefs?

Amos 3:3 – “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”

  1. Four Categories of Couples (http://www.prepare-enrich.com)
    1. Vitalized Couples – Your shared values are life-giving and energize your relationship.
    2. Harmonious Couples – Your shared values allow you to live in agreement in most of the important areas of life.
    3. Conventional Couples – Your shared values are limited but your commitment to each other keeps you together.
    4. Conflicted Couples – Your shared values are few or non- existent and you daily struggle to find common ground. Continue reading
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Are you a Good Picker or a Bad Picker?

Avoiding the Traits of a Bad Picker

I. Introduction: A single person faces the high-stakes challenge of discerning who might be a good pick for a relationship and who might be a bad pick. The standards the world uses are at best unreliable, the modeling from our own childhood may be distorted, and the church is often silent on the subject. The result is you end up feeling you are all on your own.

A. A Definition of a Bad Picker—Someone who lacks the knowledge of what makes for lasting relationships, who ignores wisdom and warning signs, and who impulsively enters into relationships. They pick people who do not share you faith and Christ and who are willing to compromise the truth.

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