Bob's Notes

Ten Things I Did Right, Ten Things I Did Wrong

  1. Ten Things I Did Right
    Right Thing #1
    I decide God’s Will for my life was more important than my own dreams for marriage.Matthew 26:42-43 — “He went away a second time and prayed, “My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.”Right Thing #2
    I chose to develop my gifts and calling rather than spending my life on pursuing pleasure.2 Timothy 1:6-7 — “For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. Continue reading

Six Diastrous Decisions that Singles Make

(And What You Can Do to Avoid Making Them)

(Acknowledgements: The original article that gave rise to this presentation was by Tracy McMillan on-line at Huffpost Style).

Disastrous Decision #1 — You Decide To Be Angry

  1. Characteristics
    1. You have unresolved hurt and resentment from relationships in your past.
    2. You use anger and hostility to protect your heart from being hurt again.
    3. You use sarcasm and cynicism as a cover.
    4. You deny you have an anger problem.”Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.” Genesis 4:6-7

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Is This Mr. or Ms. Right?

Five Questions to Honestly Ask Yourselves

A. Values Harmony – Do we have real agreement on our essential guiding beliefs?

Amos 3:3 – “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”

  1. Four Categories of Couples (
    1. Vitalized Couples – Your shared values are life-giving and energize your relationship.
    2. Harmonious Couples – Your shared values allow you to live in agreement in most of the important areas of life.
    3. Conventional Couples – Your shared values are limited but your commitment to each other keeps you together.
    4. Conflicted Couples – Your shared values are few or non- existent and you daily struggle to find common ground. Continue reading
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Are you a Good Picker or a Bad Picker?

Avoiding the Traits of a Bad Picker

I. Introduction: A single person faces the high-stakes challenge of discerning who might be a good pick for a relationship and who might be a bad pick. The standards the world uses are at best unreliable, the modeling from our own childhood may be distorted, and the church is often silent on the subject. The result is you end up feeling you are all on your own.

A. A Definition of a Bad Picker—Someone who lacks the knowledge of what makes for lasting relationships, who ignores wisdom and warning signs, and who impulsively enters into relationships. They pick people who do not share you faith and Christ and who are willing to compromise the truth.

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Facing the Giant of Family Problems

David at Ziklag
1 Samuel 30:1-31

1 David and his men reached Ziklag on the third day. Now the Amalekites had raided the Negev and Ziklag. They had attacked Ziklag and burned it, 2 and had taken captive the women and all who were in it, both young and old. They killed none of them, but carried them off as they went on their way.

3 When David and his men came to Ziklag, they found it destroyed by fire and their wives and sons and daughters taken captive. 4 So David and his men wept aloud until they had no strength left to weep. 5 David’s two wives had been captured—Ahinoam of Jezreel and Abigail, the widow of Nabal of Carmel. 6 David was greatly distressed because the men were talking of stoning him; each one was bitter in spirit because of his sons and daughters. But David found strength in the LORD his God.

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Facing the Giant of an Unfulfilled Vision

David and Building the Temple

1 Chronicles 22:1-19

1 Then David said, “The house of the LORD God is to be here, and also the altar of burnt offering for Israel.”

2 So David gave orders to assemble the aliens living in Israel, and from among them he appointed stonecutters to prepare dressed stone for building the house of God. 3 He provided a large amount of iron to make nails for the doors of the gateways and for the fittings, and more bronze than could be weighed. 4 He also provided more cedar logs than could be counted, for the Sidonians and Tyrians had brought large numbers of them to David.

5 David said, “My son Solomon is young and inexperienced, and the house to be built for the LORD should be of great magnificence and fame and splendor in the sight of all the nations. Therefore I will make preparations for it.” So David made extensive preparations before his death.

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A Heart Free from Deep Regrets

2 Samuel 24:9-25

A. We all must face the giant of the bad decisions in life we regret making (vss. 9-12).

B. The greater the spiritual responsibility we bear the wider the impact of our foolish choices (vs. 13).

C. God must sometimes discipline us severely to train us to make a different decision next time (vss. 14-17).

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