Ten Things I Did Right, Ten Things I Did Wrong

  1. Ten Things I Did Right
    Right Thing #1
    I decide God’s Will for my life was more important than my own dreams for marriage.Matthew 26:42-43 — “He went away a second time and prayed, “My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.”Right Thing #2
    I chose to develop my gifts and calling rather than spending my life on pursuing pleasure.2 Timothy 1:6-7 — “For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.
    Right Thing #3I decided if God closed a door in a relationship I would not try and kick it in.Acts 16: 6-8 — “Paul and his companions traveled throughout the region of Phrygia and Galatia, having been kept by the Holy Spirit from preaching the word in the province of Asia. 7 When they came to the border of Mysia, they tried to enter Bithynia, but the Spirit of Jesus would not allow them to. 8 So they passed by Mysia and went down to Troas.”Right Thing #4I learned from the mistakes of those closest to me and developed a healthy fear of sin.Proverbs 19:3 — “A man’s own folly ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the LORD.”Right Thing #5:

    I looked for a person willing to risk it all on Jesus and give Him a blank check on their lives.

    Acts 20:24 — “However, I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the gospel of God’s grace.”

    Right Thing #6

    I learned lessons from each relationship even when it ended in supposed failure.

    Proverbs 24:16 — “…For though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again, but the wicked are brought down by calamity.”

    Right Thing #7

    I found someone who shared my basic values and convictions in life.

    Amos 3:3 — “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”

    Right Thing #8

    I looked for someone whose mind and heart attracted me as much as their looks.

    Proverbs 31:30 — “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

    Right Thing #9

    I listened to the advice of others who loved and cared about me.

    Zechariah 13:6 — “If someone asks him, ‘What are these wounds on your body?’ he will answer, ‘The wounds I was given at the house of my friends.’”

    Right Thing #10

    I decided that if I got married it would be for better, for worse, and for keeps.

    Matthew 19:4-6 — “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

  2. Ten Things I Did Wrong
    Wrong Thing #1
    I worked too long and too hard to make some relationships work that were never going to work.Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4-6 — “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven…a time to tear down and a time to build, 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, 5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, 6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away…”Wrong Thing #2
    I let myself become too discouraged and too depressed when relationships turned out differently than what I had wanted.Psalm 34:1-3, 18 — “I will extol the LORD at all times; His praise will always be on my lips. 2 My soul will boast in the LORD; let the afflicted hear and rejoice. 3 Glorify the LORD with me; let us exalt his name together… 18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”Wrong Thing #3I spent too much time looking on in envy at those who were already in relationships.Exodus 20:17 — “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”Wrong Thing #4I confused intense infatuation with true love.1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 11 — “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres…When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”Wrong Thing #5I failed to appreciate the impact my damaged heart had on my relationships.

    Matthew 19:8 — “Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.”

    Wrong Thing #6

    I was often less than honest in telling the other person when I knew the relationships was over. Ephesians 4:25 — “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”

    Wrong Thing #7

    I believed the other person could and should fill the hole in my heart.

    Isaiah 61:1-3 — “The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners…to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.”

    Wrong Thing #8

    I became way too judgmental, unkind and unforgiving when I discovered the hidden faults and shortcomings of the other person.

    Roman 2:1 — “You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.”

    Wrong Thing #9

    I ignored obvious warning signs in the other person’s past behavior, emotional make-up and family system believing love would conquer all.

    Proverbs 22:3 — “A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.”

    Wrong Thing #10

    I let my own self-focus take over my thinking, emotions and behavior.

    Proverbs 18:1 — “An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he defies all sound judgment.”

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