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WMBI LISTENERS! Karl and Crew Notes: The Passion of Christ Can Heal Your Broken Relationships

  1. The Washing of Feet can heal the damage caused by foolish pride.

“So he got up from supper, laid aside his outer clothing, took a towel, and tied it around himself. Next, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet and to dry them with the towel tied around him.” John 13: 4-5 (CSB)

Problem:  We feel deep inside we are better than others.
Result:  We wait for others to serve us.
Solution:  We humble ourselves and put others first.

  1. The Last Supper can heal the damage caused by broken fellowship.

 “As they were eating, Jesus took bread, blessed and broke it, gave it to the disciples, and said, “Take and eat it; this is my body.” Then he took a cup, and after giving thanks, he gave it to them and said, “Drink from it, all of you. For this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.” Matthew 26: 26-28 (CSB)

Problem:  We harbor jealousy and distrust of one another.
Result:  We have broken community and truly dislike each other.
Solution:  We share the common bread and cup of Christ.

  1. The Garden of Gethsemane can heal the damage caused by stubborn disobedience.

    “He said to them, “I am deeply grieved to the point of death. Remain here and stay awake with me.” Going a little farther, he fell facedown and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.” Matthew 26: 38-39 (CSB)

Problem:  We insist on doing life our way.
Result:  We disobey God’s plan creating trouble for ourselves and others.
Solution:  We surrender our life to doing the will of our Father.

  1. The Trial of Jesus can heal the damage caused by false accusations.

    “The chief priests and the whole Sanhedrin were looking for false testimony against Jesus so that they could put him to death,but they could not find any, even though many false witnesses came forward. Finally, two who came forward stated, `This man said, ‘I can destroy the temple of God and rebuild it in three days.’” Matthew 26:59-61 (CSB)

    Problem:  We say things about others that are untrue.
    Result:  We put others through unjust suffering and pain.
    Solution:  We speak the truth and leave the results to God.

  2. The Condemnation of Jesus can heal the damage caused by painful rejection.

    ”Pilate went outside again and said to them, “Look, I’m bringing him out to you to let you know I find no grounds for charging him.”Then Jesus came out wearing the crown of thorns and the purple robe. Pilate said to them, “Here is the man!” When the chief priests and the temple servants saw him, they shouted, “Crucify! Crucify!” Pilate responded, “Take him and crucify him yourselves, since I find no grounds for charging him.” John 19:4-6 (CSB)

Problem:  We judge others by false standards.
Result:  We put others through heart-breaking rejection and scorn.
Solution: We find our peace in the truth God accepts us.

  1. The Crucifixion of Jesus can heal the damage caused by unpaid moral debts.

    “A jar full of sour wine was sitting there; so they fixed a sponge full of sour wine on a hyssop branch and held it up to his mouth. When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, “It is finished.”Then bowing his head, he gave up his spirit.” John 19: 29-30 (CSB)

Problem:  We create moral debts we cannot pay. .
Result:  We experience guilt and deserve punishment.
Solution:  We find forgiveness in the finished payment of Christ.

  1. The Resurrection of Jesus can heal the damage caused by hopeless situations.

“Having said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, but she did not know it was Jesus.  “Woman,” Jesus said to her, “why are you crying? Who is it that you’re seeking?” Supposing he was the gardener, she replied, “Sir, if you’ve carried him away, tell me where you’ve put him, and I will take him away.”  Jesus said to her, “Mary.” Turning around, she said to him in Aramaic, “Rabboni!”—which means “Teacher.” John 20: 14-16 (CSB)

Problem:  We allow important relationships to suffer and die.
Result:  We give up all hope we will ever know joy again.
Solution:  We witness God do the impossible as He restores relationships to life.

March MSG Moellers’ Single Gathering

Meal Message Mingle

Admission:  Order a MEAL through the Fuddruckers Restaurant cafeteria line

Schaumburg, IL

MESSAGE by Bob Moeller

Topic: Relationship Fix #1 The Dad U Always Wanted Could Revolutionize your Relationships


MINGLE until 10:00 p.m.

NO need to R.S.V. P. for MSG

An offering will be taken for For Keeps Ministries

Questions can be directed to cheryl@forkeepsministries.com

April Healing Hearts Through Prayer Retreat and Training for Married Couples and Singles

 
Use as a Personal Retreat or Training to work with Marriages or Single Adults
 
Dates and Times:
Saturday April 21 from 9am-5pm & Sunday April 22 from 1pm-5pm.
Place:
ECWA Goodnews Church, 5644 S. Oakley Ave. Chicago IL 60652 Website
Contact: Bob Moeller, Presenter and Teacher at bob@forkeepsministries.com
Hosts Pastor and Mrs. Sunday Bwanhot. 773-592-6161   pastor@chicago.ecwausa.org
Cost: FREE!
To R.S.V.P. write to bob@forkeepsministries.com
Session 1:  The heart is the heart of all relationships.
Session 2:  How pain and sin can damage our hearts.
Session 3:  Conducting our own personal heart exam.
Session 4:  Writing your heart’s autobiography.
Session 5:  Who damaged your heart and how did it happen?
Session 6:  What is your core pain?
Session 7:  The importance of forgiving those who hurt you.
Session 8:  Resolving our pride, moral failure and other spiritual issues.
Session 9:  Drawing a roadmap for Bible-centered healing prayer.
Session 10:  Using the Biblical Counseling Personal Evaluation for tough issues.
Session 11:  A day by day plan to continue healing for the heart.

February MSG Notes: Putting the Past Behind You Forgiving those who Hurt You

 “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Mark 11:25

A.        What Forgiveness is Not

  1. Forgetting what has happened.
  2. Pretending it didn’t hurt (or still does).
  3. By-passing the difficult work of reconciliation.
  4. Automatically restoring full trust.
  5. Something we wait for until we feel like doing it.

B.        What Forgiveness is in Fact

  1. Releasing someone from the moral debt they owe us.
  2. A willingness to pay the emotional pain and consequences of another’s actions (rather than pay them back).
  3. Often both and event and a process.
  4. Ultimately between God and ourselves.

C.        Questions to Ask

  1. When we become a believer does God forgive: a) some of our sins, b) most of our sins, or c) all of our sins?
  2. When God forgives someone else should we forgive: a) some of their sins, b) most of their sins, or c) all of their sins?
  3. The steps to forgiveness are divided into three different pages3.
  4. People who have hurt me.
  5. Family members who have hurt me.
  6. My spouse who has hurt me.


D.        The Forgiveness Worksheets

  1. List the name of the specific person, the specific incident of hurting you, and the specific pain words it caused you5.
  2. Have the person pray through each name using the prayer below:

“Lord, I choose to forgive (name) for (issue) causing me to feel (pain words). I am willing to pay the emotional pain and consequences (name) caused me. I ask you Lord Jesus to take back the ground I gave to the enemy through my bitterness and I yield that ground to your control.”6

  1. People Who Have Hurt Me include all individuals that are not family members or your spouse.

The suggested list includes friends, teachers, students, employers, employees, believers, church situations, pastors, leaders, God (how you think He hurt you), myself (what you hold against yourself) and others.

  1. Family Members who have Hurt Me include your father, mother, step-parents, siblings, and other relatives.
    1. This is everyone you’re related to except your spouse.
    2. If someone lists no person or incidents they probably are emotionally detached or disassociating (emotional amnesia).
  2. My Spouse Who Hurt Me has two columns: a) Define each way your spouse has hurt you in the past, and b) Describe the emotional pain you feel because of it.
    1. The goal is not to try and run up the score.
    2. Rather to list those people that today still cause emotional pain when you think about them.

E.        An Important Distinction

  1. Reconciliation and forgiveness are different from one another.
  2. We are commanded to unconditionally forgive others whether they ask or not.
  3. Reconciliation requires two parties to seek the restoration of the relationship.
  4. Forgiveness is the starting place of all reconciliation.

F.         The Five R’s of Reconciliation

  1. Responsibility – “I did it.”
  2. Remorse – “I feel badly I did it.”
  3. Repentance – “I won’t do it again.”
  4. Restitution – “I want to make it right.”
  5. Request – “Will you accept my apology?” (My thanks to Gary Chapman – The Five Languages of an Apology)

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4: 31-32

 

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People Who Have Hurt Me

  Release Pay
List each person who has hurt you in the past. How did they hurt you?

(List the issues)

Describe the emotional pain caused by the hurt.
Friends

Teachers, students, classroom experiences

Employers, employees

Believers, church situations, pastors, leaders, etc.

God (List the ways you think God has hurt you.)

Myself (List each area for which you cannot forgive yourself.)

Others

   

 

Lord, I choose to forgive (name) for (issue), causing me to feel (emotional pain) and I am willing to pay for the emotional pain and consequences that (name) has caused me. I ask you, Lord Jesus, to take back the ground I gave to the enemy through my bitterness and I yield that ground to Your control.”

Family Members Who Have Hurt Me

  Release Pay
List each family member who has hurt you in the past. How did they hurt you?

(List the issues)

Describe the emotional pain caused by the hurt.
Father

 

Mother

 

Step-Parents

 

Siblings

 

Others

 

   

 

“Lord, I choose to forgive (name) for (issue), causing me to feel (emotional pain) and I am willing to pay for the emotional pain and consequences that (name) has caused me. I ask you, Lord Jesus, to take back the ground I gave to the enemy through my bitterness and I yield that ground to Your control.”

 

 

My Spouse Who Has Hurt Me

Release Pay
Define each way your spouse

has hurt you in the past.

Describe the emotional pain

caused by the hurt.

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2.

3.

4.

5.

6.

7.

8.

9.

10.

 

 

“Lord, I choose to forgive (name) for (issue), causing me to feel (emotional pain) and I am willing to pay for the emotional pain and consequences that (name) has caused me. I ask you, Lord Jesus, to take back the ground I gave to the enemy through my bitterness and I yield that ground to Your control.”

 

February MSG Moellers’ Single Adult Gathering

Sunday evening, February 11, 6:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.

Venue: Fuddruckers Restaurant
436 E Golf Rd,
Schaumburg, IL 60173 USA

 

Meal Message Mingle

Admission:  Order a MEAL through the Fuddruckers Restaurant cafeteria line
MESSAGE by Bob Moeller. Topic:  Start Anew Valentines Day: Getting Free From Your Past
MINGLE until 10:00 p.m.
NO need to R.S.V. P. for MSG

An offering will be taken for For Keeps Ministries

Also, just this time, we are collecting diapers to bless Safe Families Ministry. Bring any size diapers!

December Healing the Hearts Through Prayer Conference

Please join us for an In-Town Retreat.

This time for single adults. (One table for married couples.)

Session 1:  The heart is the heart of all relationships.
Session 2:  How pain and sin can damage our hearts.
Session 3:  Conducting our own personal heart exam.
Session 4:  Writing your heart’s autobiography.
Session 5:  Who damaged your heart and how did it happen?
Session 6:  What is your core pain?
Session 7:  The importance of forgiving those who hurt you.
Session 8:  Resolving our pride, moral failure and other spiritual issues.
Session 9:  Drawing a roadmap for Bible-centered healing prayer.
Session 10:  Using the Biblical Counseling Personal Evaluation for tough issues.
Session 11:  A day by day plan to continue healing for the heart.

It’s both training for some and a personal retreat.

  • Tues. – Fri. evenings, December 12-15
  • Sat. morning, December 16.
  • Simple Complimentary Festive Dinner weekday evenings
  • Saturday morning pre-class Christmas brunch provided.

To Register for this Event:
Please fill out the form below, and indicate how many people are attending in the “message” area.

Venue:
Meadows Christian Fellowship (Our new offices)
2401 Kirchoff Road
Rolling Meadows, IL 60008

WEST SIDE OF BUILDING FAR WEST SIDE DOOR

Conference notes provided.
Love offering taken for For Keeps Ministries

October MSG Moeller’s Single Adult Gathering The Road to the Road to “I Do”

Meal Message Mingle

The next four months, we will do one session from The Road to the Road to “I Do” Single’s Conference on Relationships

Real Questions, Real Answers:  Bob Moeller’s The Road to the The Road to “I Do” Single’s Conference on Relationships, answers some of the tough questions people have about finding the right person.  This 4-session conference is for all singles, whether you are unattached, courting, dating, pre-engaged couples, or engaged, covering such topics as:

  • October – What vital elements do we need in our relationship to experience lifelong emotional and spiritual intimacy in marriage?
  • November – How will my present heart condition impact our future success as a married couple?
  • December – Are there Biblical guidelines that can tell me to stay in or get out of this relationship?

Admission:  Order a meal through the Fuddruckers Restaurant cafeteria line

A love offering will be taken for For Keeps Ministries

SEPTEMBER MSG MOELLERS’ SINGLE ADULT GATHERING

Venue:

Meal Message Mingle

The next four months, we will do one session from The Road to the Road to “I Do”

Real Questions, Real Answers:  Bob Moeller’s The Road to the Road to “I Do” Single’s Conference on Relationships, answers some of the tough questions people have about finding the right person.  This 4-session conference is for all singles, whether you are unattached, courting, dating, pre-engaged couples, or engaged, covering such topics as:

September – How do I bond to someone for a lifetime?

  • October – What vital elements do we need in our relationship to experience lifelong emotional and spiritual intimacy in marriage?
  • November – How will my present heart condition impact our future success as a married couple?
  • December – Are there Biblical guidelines that can tell me to stay in or get out of this relationship?

Admission:  Order a meal through the Fuddruckers Restaurant cafeteria line

A love offering will be taken for For Keeps Ministries

 

 

9th Anniversary MSG Moellers’ Single Adult Gathering

 Who: All single adults in Chicagoland

What: 9th Anniversary MSG Moellers’ Single Adult Gathering

When: Sunday evening, August 13, 6:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Meal, Message, Meal

Where: Venue Change Fuddruckers Restaurant, 436 E Golf Rd, Schaumburg, IL 60173

Why: Celebrate God’s Faithfulness in 9 Years of meeting together to seek His face.

RSVP:  cheryl@forkeepsministries.com

No admission charged.
Please order a meal through the cafeteria line.
A love offering will be taken for For Keeps Ministries.

WMBI Listeners Morning Ride with Karl and June: Notes for Bob Moeller’s Talk on Joseph and Finding Healing

Finding Healing for our Pain:  Lessons Learned from the Life of Joseph (Genesis 37-50)

  1. Where does the pain come from in our lives?

  1. Heart-breaking loss and trauma in our childhood.
  2. The mistakes our parent’s make that we must live with.
  3. Rejection by our family members.
  4. Physical, verbal, emotional, sexual and spiritual abuse by those we trust.
  5. Abandonment by others leaving us to face life alone.
  6. Lack of sympathy for our pain from those around us.
  7. Injustice we suffer that is never addressed.

 

  1. What are the results of unhealed pain?

 

  1. A deep sense of loneliness and isolation.
  2. Fear and anxiety about the future.
  3. Distrust of most if not all relationships.
  4. A lingering sense of sadness and depression.
  5. Pulling away from relationships and difficulty in giving and receiving love.
  6. Impulsive decisions and self-medicating behaviors to numb the pain.
  7. Returning to the familiar and self-destructive pattern of our parents.

 

  1. How does healing happen?

 

  1. Exchange: We must exchange trying to change our past for changing our interpretation of our past. (Mort Feldman)
  2. Draw: We must draw boundaries with those who hurt us so it does not continue.
  3. Reveal: We must reveal the truth of what happened to us to someone.
  4. Believe: We must believe God can make us forget all our trouble.
  5. Refocus: We must refocus our attention from all we have lost to all we have gained.
  6. Choose: We must choose daily God’s script for our lives over the script of the world, the flesh, or the devil (God shares His script through prayer, circumstances, God’s Word, the Holy Spirit and other believers speaking into our lives).
  7. Look: We must look for God to use our pain in the salvation of others.
  8. Release: We must release people from the moral debt they owe us and leave the issue of justice (or vengeance) to God.
  9. Return: (When appropriate) we must return kindness and love for the wrongs and injustices done to us.

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@ Bob Moeller www.forkeepsministries.com